I am comfortable

What do you understand by the title of this article? Let’s think of the opposite meaning. I am not comfortable with things I don’t like to do. Did it make some sense yet? Let me try some examples.

#1 Manali Trance

So, the other day I was in Manali and I checked into a hotel that had great reviews on the internet, the internet freak that we are these days. I am sure a lot of us don’t even purchase lingerie without googling it online for at least an hour. Okay back to my check[1]in, we entered room number 103. A breath of fresh air welcomed us as the balcony door was opened and along with that came along another gush of air, some might even call it earthy, some a smell of hope and some aroma of sanity in an insane way. It was marijuana. No this is not 2002, so I am not ending the last statement with an exclamation mark.

We immediately realised and changed our room to 205. It was the last room on the floor hence it felt isolated.

Even though I have done stuff earlier it made me uncomfortable at that moment. Why? Because today I chose not to. I thought to myself, I used to and I might do it again then why am I not okay with it?

This was the first time I realised I am not okay with something that I do not like in the current phase.

#2 I am a vegetarian who eats meat

Do you have that one person in life who was a hardcore meat-eater now converted into a vegetarian and just cannot shut up about why meat-eating sucks? Quick question to him, where was that wisdom last week? So, he was a nonvegetarian until he had a change of heart for a chicken’s leg piece and he quit. Good, good for you but now I have to listen to his three discourses every day until I reach my death bed or I have a change of heart, whichever happens, earlier. Stating my point again, he was only okay till the time he liked eating meat. Now the question is, is meat-eating really bad or just something you don’t like anymore because you don’t do it?

#3 My birth mother is my mother-in-law

One of my closest friends, came back to her parent's home, in search of sanity, peace, a soul that could understand her, air that she could breathe without breathing regret along with it, a cup of tea that she could sip while her feet touched the cold floor without feeling sorry of the water she spilled while making that tea and she does not need to worry about it.

She sat next to her mother looking for some solace in her words, which she did receive. She stayed there for a few weeks until she realised some things were pretty much the same in both of the houses (parents and in-laws house). She felt something had changed but what exactly. Her parents were the same, she was the same, every item was kept at the same spot for the past 10 years, what’s changed?

Perception, she thought to herself. All those times her mother refused or stated something, she listened to her and obeyed. Only this time she realised, I am the daughter and she is my mother, which makes it easy for me to obey and understand her. Whereas when my in-laws speak in the same manner or ask me to do the same task, I am not okay with it.

That night my friend slept with a thought –

“We are all the same. We all do and say the same things, react, get angry, show love, obey, disobey in the same manner. The only difference is where is it coming from.”

Who are the sender and the receiver? When it comes from someone known, by default, we attach a layer of justification, accept and move on and when it comes from someone not from our friendly radar, we add a layer of suspicion, skepticism, and mistrust.

This of course depends on the nature of the sender. If the action is done intentionally to jeopardize the receiver’s happiness, things change. With the point above, I do not agree that we by default take our in-laws negatively, but I am stating that something similar might be in our own home. We just don’t want to see it that way.

When you think about the title, there will be many examples popping up in your head. When you realise that you are not comfortable about something today, which was okay yesterday or vice versa, you have a change of feeling and now have set different rules for yourself to live by.

Now tell me is it fair for being strong, dominant on others with respect to something you liked yourself the other day, or is it just out of care for the other person? Also, share if you have similar experiences because it’s all a part of being humans.

Until next time, ciao.

Miss. Ravans